Wednesday, August 01, 2012


When do you decide that a relationship is over?

How do you change learned behaviours that you don't like, that your behaviour allowed and enforced in someone?

When do you decide that you have tried enough?

When do you face facts and come to terms that it's just not going to happen?

How much grace and understanding can you extend to a person before it becomes counter-productive?

When do you say you have done everything you could?

I just have so many questions that remain unanswered.  


Brigette said...

Found your blog via a link from another blog to one of your posts (25 ways to save $) and then stayed to explore a bit. I wondered whether you ever finished your, PhD, what field it was in, whether the relationship you wondered how to know was over was with a man or with your dissertation. I wondered why you suddenly stopped blogging a year and a half ago. I don't know if you still read comments on this blog, but I wondered, so I'm asking.

Jane Canuck said...

I stopped blogging shortly after leaving my PhD program in Canadian History. It was a difficult decision and life sort of became too dark to even blog about while I figured out what to do with my life and how to come to terms with what I felt was the greatest failure of my life up to that point.

Its funny you ask about the relationship I was questioning being over was with a man or my dissertation. At the time it was about Quiet Confidence and I, but it very well could have been about my dissertation. So many of the same questions between the two.

It's been so long since I blogged that I'm not sure where to pick up or how to find my voice again.

Brigette said...

Thanks for your reply. I asked about "man or dissertation" because when I was writing my dissertation, I very nearly got "divorced" from it a number of times. I finally did finish (then got divorced from my husband…but that was much later).

I hope things are not quite as dark as they once were. I enjoyed your blog posts. You're a terrific writer, and I hope you're doing something that allows you to use that talent.